Guys and Girls Cannot be Friends
Can men and women be friends? I say absolutely not. None of my married girlfriends have male acquaintances, so why do my single girlfriends think that they should maintain these relationships?
My single girlfriends maintain that guys that they date do not care about their male friends because…
“It's just a very good friend that I have had for many years who I know has a huge crush on me and has for years, even though there's no chance anything's going to happen.”
“Anyway, he's just been a really good friend who I know would come get me if I was ever in a jam.”
“No, I’ve been friends with him for years, through many boyfriends and no one's ever been jealous.”
“He’s different because there's no threat.”
My contention is that it crushes a guy’s ego for his girlfriend to hang out with "male friends,” and I would not want to date a weak guy that 1) does not tell you it crushes his ego or 2) has no ego to crush.
7 comments:
Silly girls! So theatric, so much drama. If only you girls knew how little time we spend thinking about these complicated dating schemes.
It is as simple as this: We do not allow the guy friends because we know what guys really want. It goes well beyond ego, it is like inviting a thief into your house. He might not steal anything but you know he is eyeing your valuables, and thinking about all the possibilities.
I disagree, it's not always such a black/white issue.
For instance, what if the ex has a girlfriend or is married? Or you have dated and it just didn't work?
I think if it's out in the open and both people are in relationships and they hang out in a group once in a blue moon, it's ok.
I agree that one should probably not make a huge effort to hang out with exes, but if there's a party, and both you and your boyfriend are there, I think it's ok if the other person comes with a date or something.
But I agree that in general it's probably best not to make any effort to maintain good friendships with exes.
As a man, I have to tell you silly girls that we are never really your friends. We can be friendly and supportive, we can care a bout you, but we are always thinking of the sexual potential.
It does not matter if you are hot, fat, or in between, the thought is there. There are a half a dozen girls I am "friends" with right now, and I have hooked up with most of them at one time or another, even if they had a serious relationship at the time.
Be honest sweethearts, the guy friends you talk about probably, at one time, have kissed or tried more with you. And that is beyond "friendship".
I think that every situation is different and needs to be addressed as such. What if you know them through your family, they are gay, a co-worker, etc.
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