MATCHinform’s Guide to Informed Dating

MATCHinform’s guide to informed dating advises you to be available (step #3) and not to allow desperation to control your behavior (step #5). This is not original advice and is commonly doled out as a dating tip in the form “be available, but don’t seem available.” It makes no sense to say be available, but don’t act available. So to understand this concept, I am going to offer another perspective.

Step #3 – Shop for a date in the right market. This advice centers on meeting your potential date. Physically go to places that are conducive to meeting singles that interest you. Do not go out to a bar with a pack of girlfriends or a guy friend and expect to meet anyone. You are not approachable under such circumstances. Go with one friend, sit or stand in proximity to people you want to meet, and most importantly have fun (or pretend to at the very least.) People are drawn to happiness and excitement.

Step #5 – Market your strengths effectively / Desperation cannot rule. When you are out having fun, don’t stop talking to your girlfriend because some guy starts talking to you. While meeting the man or woman of your dreams and getting married may be your number one priority, do not let others know this agenda. People pick their potential mate for various reasons (e.g., success, power, and attractiveness). Sell these points first. Remember when shopping, you have to like the clothes before you try them on! Build intrigue by demonstrating that your friends, career, and family are important to you and that you have your life in order and do not NEED to meet him.