Step #3 – Shop for a Date in the Right Market

Based on the popularity of this weeks set of posts, I have decided to embark on a journey to establish MATCHinform’s steps to meet, date and marry the love of your life.

Step #2 – Quit being friends with members of the opposite sex. (This includes anyone you previously dated.)

Step #3 – Shop for a date in the right market / Be available.

I am surprised how many people actually give the opposite advice and tell you to be unavailable. When you play hard to get or pretend to be busy, etc. this will be interpreted as a lack of interest. Sincerity is always the best approach.

Being available has several facets. First, you have to be physically in the environment where you are going to meet the right person. Recently, I read an article that woman of a certain age should not go to a bar to meet men. This is absolutely NOT true.

What women need to do is pay attention to the time, day and type of establishment. You are not going to find a guy looking for a serious girlfriend at a downtown club on a Saturday night. There are exceptions to the rule, but why not put the odds in your favor.

The places to meet men are Happy Hour, Sundays at the sports bar during the fall, in the morning at an Irish bar on Saint Patty’s Day, etc. So you wanted to go to the gym after work, or get your nails done on Sunday afternoon…do you also want to be single the rest of your life? Because frankly you can’t compete with the rest of the women who have the same gym and pedicure schedule and who also only go out on Friday and Saturday nights.