It is Not Jealousy, It is Just Trashy

Anonymous posted the following comment in response a recent MATCHinform blog article.

[Not wanting your girlfriend/boyfriend to be friends with an ex] hasn't got anything to do with social customs - it is jealousy, the Green-Eyed Monster, plain and simple; and it's rooted in insecurity. Exes share a history that current partners/spouses don't and can't. So what?

First of all thank you for your comment. I believe that it is a narrow approach to insinuate that jealousy is the governing factor for not wanting your girlfriend/boyfriend to be fiends with an ex. Whether or not mistrust and jealousy play into the issue are secondary to pride and self-respect. Pride in your relationship and self-respect are the reasons NOT to continue relationships with exes.

We live in a world where Britney Spears, Paris Hilton and Pamela Anderson are role models for young woman, and dating is less traditional. Activities that were once considered taboo are now discussed freely. Cute Jewess discusses in her blog when she should and will be intimate with her dates. Our culture accepts that some activities that used to only be appropriate in a married relationship are now part of “dating.”

True or not, the general public is going to assume that certain activities are part of the contemporary dating culture. People are getting married later in life and most will have had previous relationships. When someone is friends with an ex (or two), they are flaunting their score card, not only in front of their current girlfriend/boyfriend, but also in front of the rest of society who (like it or not) will draw their own conclusions.