Taming the Toxic Bachelor (Part 3)
Monday’s article on Toxic Bachelors was circulated around the peanut gallery. The conclusion simply put, those who do not fall into the described category of Toxic Bachelor are those who would like to but do not possess the wherewithal.
If the majority of available men in their 20s and 30s are Toxic Bachelors or have Toxic bachelor envy, are single women screwed? It appears to be a Catch 22. Do women force men to respect them and quit providing free milk knowing that even if a select group withholds milk, there will be a large portion still handing out samples? Or do men spontaneously start behaving like gentlemen, giving up their playboy ways?
I hate to tell you ladies, but the horse must be before the cart. Women have to relearn how to act like ladies, because all people, men and women will take the easy road. If men always proposed marriage every time they dated a woman, then they too would be making things too easy.
Dating or courtship is a delicate game of cat and mouse. The role of cat or mouse interchange from time to time during the game because human nature dictates a love of the chase, although too often we bury our nature for instant gratification.
3 comments:
let's just be honest and call bs on this whole thing right now. when a man is a gentleman, women rarely respect it and certainly are not attracted to it in t he long term. eventually the man will be seen as a doormat. so the unspoken understanding for both sexes is that a certain amount of toxic behavior from both sides is unfortunately required for modern relationships to work. personally, i think this is a sad load of crap laced with immaturity and entitlement rather than commitment, work, and genuine caring. but it is what it is.
Well whoever replied above sounds like a bitter fool with probably a few STDs under their belt...so to speak...
Word the the wise, act like a slut, be treated like one. Act like a lady and you may have to wait, but at least you're waiting with some dignity and self respect and disease free...unless you sit on
a toilet seat, which i don't advise either...nevermind...Yuck to the
reply.
The author of the 1st comment obviously believes being an assertive manly type and being a gentleman are mutually exclusive. This author should be questioning his or her level of maturity and his or her ability to understand the nuance necessary for a successful relationship.
The term "gentleman" is far from synonymous with "doormat", this reply seems to be written by someone possessing little knowledge of the real world. Most likely a recent college graduate, perhaps having spent lots of time in the study of humanities or some other silly social science, which would explain the naiveté of the reply.
All men should act as gentlemen, at all times, this in no way means he should feminize his behavior or allow himself to ever be stepped upon. If the writer of the reply feels women today do not respect this, he or she should reassess the women he or she has chosen with whom to associate.
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