Who needs to get married anyway?
Who needs to get married anyway? Years ago, men often married for sex, which didn't come so easily, and this motivated them. Sex meant pleasure, which humans crave, and the prospect of unlimited sex propelled many a man into marrying.
Today, men can have this without marrying. A woman must now understand the other reasons a man marries. Most men get married in the hope of improving their life. Somehow they believe marriage makes life better for themselves. Once women understand this basic concept, they can start to understand why a man wants to marry and why he doesn't.
A man who sees marriage as burdensome, hard, upsetting, or painful will avoid marrying. A person may love you, but avoid marrying you (or anybody else) if they somehow believe life with you will be difficult. For some men, single life just is better - and nothing will sway them. They may like women, but they don't need them. You can't change this type of man.
A man must feel he is 'getting' something by marrying you - a feeling, a reward, a purpose, comfort, thrills, whatever. If you can figure out what constitutes pleasure and meaning to him, then you can begin to understand why he would marry. Is pleasure for him having a family? A beautiful wife other guys will envy? A helper and emotional support? A best friend for life? Would he love not having to worry about cooking and cleaning? Does he need help financially? Does he need a woman to baby him? Be his partner? Help him straighten himself out? Is he looking for a woman to have a blast with? Or a woman to take care of? Does he want a woman he has to work for and please?
Every man has his own agenda. It is the woman’s job to figure out what the man wants. As you begin to understand his needs, ask yourself if you can fill or even want to fill these needs. Be honest. If you see his needs don't match what you are willing to give, say goodbye. For him to give you what you want, he must get what he wants, and vice versa.
5 comments:
The person who wrote this makes me sick. Men are out there just looking for sex and what they can get out of it and that's it?! This kind of mentality gives a bad name to men and relationships and people in general. I'm sick of it. Why don't you just stop using women and promoting this sick mentality? Get some therapy you cold-hearted pervert!
"It is the woman’s job to figure out what the man wants." Otherwise what? Then it's ok if the guy takes advantage of the woman because it is her job to make sure he's not a creep. What a psychopath! Who's writing this crap!
Yeah! Very typical blame the victim mentality. What is wrong with the advice writers on this website? Oh, looks like Steve Friedman is writing for them. Now it makes sense. And look they are promoting Eric Shaeffer as well! Two of the creepiest relationship dating writers around. Hey matchinform! You need better writers who are not justifying their creepy lifestyle! Get some advice writers with credentials and class!
“As primal beings, men are not supposed to be monogamous. When people ask, ‘Do you believe in monogamy?’ Well, of course that’s what you want. But part of what I love about men is that it’s hard for them to be monogamous. Women, I think, need to spend more time understanding men than changing men. And vice versa.” - Kate Hudson tells the new issue of Harper’s Bazaar
Kate Hudson is a child and no expert on anything.
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