Stop Being "The Friend" - Tricks for Winning the Girl

“The friend” is a guy she likes and has fun with, but just won’t date. He’s the back-up when no one else is available. He will answer her calls when she keeps getting other people’s voicemail. He is there to provide male attention when any attention is better than no attention at all. But all the while, she wouldn’t hesitate to cancel plans with “the friend” if something better came up.

Some guys seem to be able to always charm the girl while others are destined to be her friend. If a guy has been pigeon holed as “the friend”, can he still get the girl? With a little foresight, patience, and pizzazz, anything is possible.

Step one – stop being so damn available. Don’t run to meet her for brunch after she has had a terrible date the night before. Don’t be available on a Friday night for drinks after work when she calls you at 6 p.m. because her date canceled, and don’t pick up the phone every single time she calls. Instead, tell her you have a date and will try and meet up later depending how the date goes. Appear busy, even if you aren’t. In a couple of weeks or months, you will no longer be waiting for her to call because she will start to track you down.

Step two – do not let her talk about guys in front of you. Keep your conversation away from ex’s and current boyfriends. This is a job for her girlfriends, and if you entertain such banter, you a grouped with the rest of the girls and not as a possible love interest.

Step three – ignore steps one and two when the current boyfriend or love interest scorns her. Take her out for drinks and talk about what happened. Be her confident, her friend, the only one who understands her, and be open to where things may lead.