Yes, Men Are Hormonally Charged
In response MATCHinform's post, My Ex Won't Leave me Alone, Anonymous said...”God, you make men sound awful. Why even bother if all men are like this? Only after sex? YOU may be that way, you pig, but I think other men are quite different. In fact I know that. Who is writing this garbage! Get some therapy you sicko!”
MATCHinform’s response: Men are not "only after sex" it just happens to be on top of the list of things they want. If sex were taken out of the equation, men would seldom take the time for walks on the beach, etc. If you think differently, you are deluding yourself.
How often do men stroll on the beach together? If it is about companionship, conversation and friendship, why do heterosexual males not have candlelight dinners?
2 comments:
Understandably men and women do things together to create a romantic atmosphere which may lead to sex. But you say: "Plain and simply, men are after sex. Men may take long walks on a beach or share romantic candle lit dinners; however, these romantic gestures are not due to their sensitivity but a desire to progress the relationship physically. Remember that your ex has already learned what to do and say to create an atmosphere which promotes physicality. " AGAIN this may be what YOU are doing, whoever you are. Most men and women want to feel emotionally close to someone before having sex, which then account for the romantic gestures. Sex is then a by product of expressing those feelings. Not all men are after just sex mostly. IF THIS IS WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR PRIMARILY, YOU HAVE A PROBLEM. Plain and simple. Get some therapy. You are hurting people. Sex Addicts Anonymous is a good place to start.
I LOVE that someone wrote the above comment!!!!!! My ex used to say oh men couldn't be monogamous, that he would get bored with sex with same person for years and couldn't do it and no one really liked it. I lost my faith in men after that relationship. I thought he was telling me the truth. He was controlling as well. Kept a tight hold on when we could talk, could see each other, sleep together, etc and was really only nice to me until we slept together on our date and then I could tell he pretty much wanted me to get lost until our next date. After we broke up I was such a wreck because I felt so bad about myself after that relationship. HE then actually told me to go into therapy to get over it and the therapist told me that he had all of the classic signs of a sex addict. Every symptom I read about he had! It was such a relief to know although I had problems (like why I was drawn to him) that he really had problems and not all men were like that. THEY AREN'T!!!!!!. I have a great boyfriend now and trust him and it is wonderful. Most men WANT monogamy and emotional intimacy. Most women do too. Most everyone does if you are open to it. So I agree...this writer is peddling a load of crap. Sounds like he has a problem. Being romantic just to get sex! You should be ashamed!
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