Going Back to Your Ex
Why we go back to exes. It is primal. Interestingly enough, during a relationship, we fixate on the bad, too often anyways. When we break up, we fixate on the good.
Comfort, ease and the human protection mechanism of not allowing the bad to occupy too much space in our long-term memory, makes the thought of returning to an ex so acceptable to us. When you feel that perfect dress and make-up are not necessary because you have already seen each other at your worst, and conversation will flow, you can easily be sucked into making such a mistake.
Men often go back because it can mean easy intimacy without so much as buying dinner. Women go back because they have something hidden the recesses of their minds that make them think they might reignite a romance. As a result, in such situations, women are almost invariably let down and men end up confused.
2 comments:
The reason people, especially women go back to exes is because it's comfortable. At a time when we're vulnerable, we tend to go back to what we know, for better or worse.
So true!!!! It's very rare that going back to an ex ever actually works-
there eventually comes a time when either one or both realize/remember
why they broke up in the first place.. And you're right- men do it for a completely different reason than women. Very good article!! :)
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