Why I Never Knew He was Cheating

My boyfriend/fiancé cheated on me for two years. This is how he got away with it:

1. He did not tell any of his friends so there was no one to spill the beans.
2. He had a secret email that he used to communicate with the other woman when he was at home.
3. He would take out cash rather than use his card which he said he preferred because it meant he spent less. I later noted that the location of the ATM he used was very close to her house which was also near where he works.
4. She used to work with him. After she left he met her in the morning before work. He always said he had loads of work and had to go to work early. He met her at lunch time and sometimes when he was supposed to be at the gym he went to her house instead.
5. He was very careful not to lie using any of his friends because I know them all and could easily check - not that I would have anyway. As a result he seldom went on evening dates with her.

Posted by Nicole, 29, in a relationship, DC.