Women Over 30 (part 2)

This is a post from the abandoned blog "My Friends are Idiots."

Now, let me describe (in general) the average 30 year old female. Now I maybe generalizing a bit (well probably quite a bit, but I'm not known to be too bright). I'd like to categorize the 4 kinds of females that are over 30.

1) Married
2) Pregnant
3) Married and Pregnant
4) Desperate

(Engaged counts as married)

Now single females don't want the dubious distinction of being 'desperate' so if you are not part of the first 3 groups, and didn't want to be known as being in group 4, you would probably put yourself in group #5, group #5 being 'active manhunt' mode. (which to me doesn't really exist cause group 5 is the same as group 4....)

Now this is the average single 30 year old guy:

1) Has job. (If you're lucky, you have a good job that pays money, hopefully lots of money.)
2) Has own place. (You might not own this place but at least you're not sleeping in same room as your kid brother)
3) Has vehicle. (This is pretty much obvious, what guy doesn't have a car?)
4) Has no curfew. (This is directly related to #2)
5) Has nothing to lose. (You can pretty much do whatever you want without worrying about the consequences cause there are no consequences when you're single and 30. Who's gonna be mad if you come home at 5 in the morning, barf on the kitchen floor and pass out with one shoe on. There are no witnesses, thus no one to yell at you.)

To a single woman, from my point of view, these traits are spectacular because..

1) They are single

2) They are single

3) They are single

4) They are single

A single 30 year old female will try to grab onto whatever they can so they can get into group 1, 2 or 3 and out of group '5'. (They may think they are in group 5 but c'mon, it's really group 4.) I still haven't quite nailed down the science of exactly why they want to be in the first 3 groups but I think it's a competition thing...Therefore most girls don't want to be in group 4 since all their friends are in the first 3 groups. (The girls that want to stay in group 4 are lots of fun to party with cause instead of being solely in group 4 they belong to a sub-group of what I like to dub 'sluts'!!!)

Now it's all gold for the single guy. No more on your knees begging for a date, buddy you're the king. Who cares if you're snaggle-toothed, if the girl is over 30, she'll over look that. Got a club foot? No matter. After a girl turns 30, it's like a 'discrimination' switch gets turned off and the 'desperate' switch is flicked on. I know I may bump into alot of opposition with my opinion but look around. How many single female friends over 30 do you have? And for the girls that fall into that group, how many always complain "There are never any good single guys out there"? The first single guy they bump into will already have a running start cause you know she's looking for a mate...if they can find him. So all I can say is;

Good luck single guy, you're gonna have the time of your life, if you are really out there.....

Class War: MySpace vs. Facebook

By Claire Cain Miller, Forbes.com

A flurry of recent articles have observed that young people are leaving MySpace for Facebook in droves, setting off speculation that MySpace is becoming the latest victim of fickle teens following the hot new thing.

Not so, says University of California, Berkeley, researcher Danah Boyd. Not all teens are leaving MySpace, she wrote in a recent essay--instead, they're splitting up along class lines.

Boyd confirms what teens in any high school across the country already know: Affluent kids from educated, well-to-do families have been fleeing MySpace for Facebook since it opened registration to the general public in September, while working-class kids still flock to MySpace.

That could have big implications for advertisers targeting the coveted teenaged population online, three-quarters of whom have a profile on a social network. Both sites have been powerhouses for advertisers because of their huge, wide-reaching audiences, says Robin Neifield, chief executive of interactive marketing agency NetPlus Marketing. That strategy could change if the sites become more like the niche social networks popping up across the Web for groups of like-minded people from similar backgrounds.

Boyd's essay came amid speculation about the future of the social network giants. Despite the fact that MySpace still gets more than twice as many unique visitors as Facebook, it's littered with postings announcing that users, often teens, are switching to its rival.

The number of Facebook visitors ages 12 to 17 jumped 149% over the past year, while MySpace lost 27% of teens, according to ComScore Media Metrix. Rupert Murdoch, whose News Corp.owns MySpace, even lamented in an interview that he was losing readers to Facebook. News Corp. is rumored to be considering swapping MySpace for a 25% stake in Yahoo!.

Estimated ad revenue for 2007 calendar year for Facebook is $125 million, $525 million for MySpace, according to research firm eMarketer. Together, the two account for 72% of all online advertising on social networks.

There's a reason why the "goody-two-shoes, jocks, athletes or other 'good' kids" are going to Facebook, says Boyd, who studies social networks and youth culture and made her observations based on formal interviews with 90 teens, informal interviews with hundreds more, and the perusal of tens of thousands of teens' online profiles.

Facebook launched in 2004 as a site for Harvard students. Gradually, it opened up to other college students, then to high school kids if a college student invited them. "Facebook is what the college kids did. Not surprisingly, college-bound high schoolers desperately wanted in," Boyd writes.

MySpace, meanwhile, is the "cool working-class thing" for high school students getting a job after graduation rather than heading to the Ivy League, Boyd writes. Constant local news stories on predators targeting kids on MySpace further alienated the "good kids," she says. Both companies declined to comment on Boyd's essay.

Her analysis could help marketers figure out which sites to target--help she says they desperately need. "Many of the advertisers that I have met are extremely savvy about offline marketing but complete fools when it comes to online marketing," ignorant of who visits Web sites and why, Boyd wrote in an e-mail interview with Forbes. Paying attention to demographics could help. Hot Topic should target MySpace, for example, while J. Crew should focus on Facebook.

"As an advertiser, in my opinion, Facebook users are more qualified to convert and more apt to buy a shirt, so I would go there before MySpace," says Josh Mohrer, director of retail for BustedTees, an online purveyor of hipster clothes and sometime Facebook advertiser.

Facebook can lure advertisers with its affluence, says Bill Tancer, general manager of global research at Hitwise, an online marketing analysis firm. His data backs up Boyd's conclusions that Facebook users are richer than those on MySpace. Still, MySpace attracts so many more viewers that "there's no way marketers are going to leave," he says.

NetPlus chief Neifield says she's not paying too much attention to Boyd's observations. Advertisers should look beyond demographics when placing ads and instead analyze online behavior like who visited other sites with similar content, who downloaded what or who clicked on which ads, she says. "It's not very often these days that we buy based on demographics alone." (Read original article.)

MySpace deletes 29,000 sex offenders

NEW YORK (Reuters) - Popular Internet social network MySpace said on Tuesday it detected and deleted 29,000 convicted sex offenders on its service, more than four times the figure it had initially reported.

The company, owned by media conglomerate News Corp, said in May it had deleted about 7,000 user profiles that belonged to convicted offenders. MySpace attracts about 60 million unique visitors monthly in the United States.

The new information was first revealed by U.S. state authorities after MySpace turned over information on convicted sex offenders it had removed from the service.

"The exploding epidemic of sex offender profiles on MySpace -- 29,000 and counting -- screams for action," Connecticut Attorney General Richard Blumenthal said in a statement.

Blumenthal, who led a coalition of state authorities to lobby MySpace for more stringent safeguards for minors, and other state AGs have demanded the service begin verifying a user's age and require parental permission for minors.

The minimum age to register on MySpace is 14.

"We're pleased that we've successfully identified and removed registered sex offenders from our site and hope that other social networking sites follow our lead," MySpace Chief Security Officer Hemanshu Nigam said in a statement.

The service has come under attack over the past year after some of its young members fell prey to adult predators posing as minors. The families of several teenage girls sexually assaulted by MySpace members sued the service in January for failing to safeguard its young members.

Late last year, it struck a partnership with background verification company Sentinel Tech Holdings Corp. to co-develop the first U.S. national database of convicted sex offenders to make it easier to track offenders on the Internet.

Convicted sex offenders are required by law to register their contact information with local authorities. But the information has only been available on regional databases, making nationwide searches difficult.

As of May, there were about 600,000 registered sex offenders in the United States. (Read original article.)

Older Men

By Ask the Working Girl from Banker's Ball, Ask the Ex-Working Girl: On Older Men… (July 12, 2006).

“I have personal prejudices against older guys because only in New York is it ok to find men of your dad’s age hanging out in clubs. One thing that I would like to say to young women – ‘do not go for older guys only because they have achieved a lot and have lots of money for the simple reason that in NYC, you will find younger guys who have achieved a lot and have lots of money. They are just harder to catch, but well worth the fishing. That’s the beauty of NY — lots of young, cute men with huge bank accounts. So there’s no need to date an older man unless you are being lazy about it.”

Which reminds me of another great quote from another great woman. Coco Chanel once said — “There are no ugly women in this world, just lazy ones.” My interpretation of these quotes is that both women are saying the same thing. As women, if we put our minds to it, we can get anything we want, we just have to put some thought and work into it. Okay, that is enough Oprah-esque advice for the week.

Online Dating on the Ranch

When the rooster crows, are you all alone? Do you milk the cow and churn butter by your lonesome self? Are you looking for love in all the wrong places?

If you're a farmer reaping a bitter harvest on the field of love, there's now an online dating service just for you.

"City folks just don't understand," says Jerry Miller, who founded the www.farmersonly.com website in May 2005.

"Sure, the farming community gets smaller every year, but there are still roughly 2 million farms in America, and the people who live out there are committed to a way of life that not everyone wants or understands."

Lovelorn Horse Dentist Seeks Companionship

Geography is often the enemy of a farmer's love life. Not only do farmers work in remote areas, they're spread out all over all 50 states.
George Oscar, a 42-year-old horse dentist who lives just outside Cleveland, says it's the best dating website he's ever joined, and it's already resulted in several friendships.

"I live close enough to a big city that I had options. I tried Yahoo! Personals," Oscar says. "But my job is unique, and I wanted to meet people who shared my interests, only I didn't want to date my clients."

Some 40 million Americans -- nearly half of all unmarried people -- have tried Internet dating in recent years, turning it into a $1 billion business. Match.com alone operates 30 different sites in 18 languages and claims to have 15 million members around the world.

There's also a plethora of niche dating sites, catering to singles of various religious faiths, geographic location, educational background and special interests. If politics is your thing, there's DemocraticDating.com and RepublicanDating.com. You can seek a lifelong horseback riding companion on www.EquestrianSingles.com, rev your engine at www.Harley-Match.com, or double-date with your pooch on www.DoggieDating.com.

And if you're married and looking for philandering thrills, www.AshleyMadison.com and several other sites will cater to your cheating heart.

It's a Farmer Thing

Miller was therefore shocked six months ago, when he found that there wasn't an online dating site just for farmers. "Farming is something that you either want as a lifestyle or don't, and that's what makes this site relevant," he says.

"You either know what it's like to work from the crack of down 'til the sun goes down or you don't. You either know the pressure to get your job done at harvest season, or the lifestyle isn't for you."

Miller and his wife of 27 years have raised three children. Though the 52-year-old Cleveland resident might talk like a farmer, he's actually an advertising man with agricultural clients, including the Alpaca Owners & Breeders Association, that take him to plenty of farms.

"I work with more than 4,000 farmers through my business," he says.
Several months before he created the site, a divorced farmer was telling him of her dating woes and how she just couldn't find a guy who could appreciate the lifestyle.
While other online services allow members to search for companions in particular professions, Miller believes that rural folks -- and people who want to return to farm life -- need a special place.

FarmersOnly.com has a substantial non-farming membership -- many work or want to live in rural communities. One lady describes herself as a third-generation farmer, who wants to correct "the mistake" of moving to a big city.

Just like other dating sites, homosexuals are welcome to find companionship, and a handful have already posted profiles.

"We're still small, but we're at the point where I'm pretty sure this thing is going to make it," Miller says. "I hear from members now that they meet up with each other at trade shows, and things like that. We're definitely welcomed as part of a community." (Read full article.)

Taming the Toxic Bachelor (Part 2)

The number of toxic men, according to the article, is growing. Why would this be happening?

Think about this historically: there was a time when a man could not stay single so long, as the goal most men seek, and think about most of the day, was not readily attainable in days past; however, in this era of "enlightenment" and "equality" one of the main limitations in the life of a young, single man exists no more. Now any male can have his cake and eat it too, several times a week, if he wishes.

What does a young man gain from marriage that he cannot have single? Today's man can keep all his freedom, have all his fun and never once have to explain his whereabouts to anyone.

The milk is free to all who ask, so who needs the maintenance complications of cow ownership? We live in a world where tradition, loyalty, social mores, and pride in doing anything simply for goodness sake, have been replaced by easy access to instant gratification. A game of catch on the front yard is replaced by the plasma TV and a video game, a father's authority is marginalized by society and government, thus a male feels little pride in fulfilling his role. Many women today have opted to pretend that the male gender is nothing more than a donor of sperm and young men because it is easy option to play that role, do so with pleasure.

In order to tame toxic men, it is up to females in society to act as moral compasses, which historically they have done so well, and keep the milk where it belongs, right up until the consumer of the product agrees to buy it. Otherwise, one will acquire a taste for milk that has soured, if for no other reason then only for the low price.

Taming the Toxic Bachelor (Part 1)

According to the Urban Dictionary, toxic bachelors are the “worst men around. They are liars, cheats, users and abusers. Toxic bachelors are expert players and will always lie to women and to whom ever to get what they want. They will often use the same pick up lines and rely heavily on their looks and fake charm to attract women. Extremely shallow and only care about physical appearances. Toxic bachelors are typically good looking, well dressed and are usually salesmen.”

Despite adverse health risks linked to the Toxic Bachelor lifestyle, the movement is gaining popularity. Eventually, after ten to twenty years of hangovers and weekend relationships, these men grow up and settle down with a woman ten years their junior. Does a modern woman have to just wait and hope that she catches one of these guys when they are finally ready to settle down, or is it possible to tame the Toxic Bachelor?

Men lie to get sex. Women lie to get married.

Manhattan Wedlock! Never-Married Women, Toxic Bachelors by Candace Bushnell

Lunch the other day. Vicious gossip with a man I’d just met. We were discussing mutual friends, a couple. He knew the husband, I knew the wife. I’d never met the husband and I hadn’t seen the wife in years (except to run into her occasionally on the street), but as usual, I knew everything about the situation.

“It’s going to end badly,” I said. “He was naïve. A stool pigeon. He came in from Boston and he didn’t know anything about her and she jumped at the opportunity. She’d already gone through a reputation. No guy in New York would have married her.”

I attacked my fried chicken, warming up to the subject. “Women in New York know. They know when they have to get married, and that’s when they do it. Maybe they’ve slept with too many guys or they know nothing’s ever going to really happen with their career, or maybe they really do want kids. Until then, they put it off for as long as they can. Then they have that moment, and if they don’t take it…” I shrugged. “That’s it. Chances are, they’ll never get married.”

The other guy at the table, a corporate, doting dad type who lives in Westchester, was looking at us in horror. “But what about love?” he asked.

I looked at him pityingly. “I don’t think so.”

When it comes to finding a marriage partner, New York has its own particularly cruel mating rituals, as complicated and sophisticated as an Edith Wharton novel. Everyone knows the rules—but no one wants to talk about them. The result is that New York has bred a particular type of single woman—smart, attractive, successful and… never-married. She is in her late 30’s or early 40’s, and, if empirical knowledge is good for anything, she will probably never get married.

This is not about statistics. Or exceptions. We all know about the successful playwright who married the beautiful fashion designer a couple of years older than he is. But when you’re beautiful and successful and rich and “know everyone,” the normal rules don’t apply.

What if, on the other hand, you’re 40 and pretty and you’re a television producer or have your own P.R. company, but you still live in a studio and sleep on a fold-out couch—the 90’s equivalent of Mary Tyler Moore? Except, unlike Mary Tyler Moore, you’ve actually gone to bed with all those guys instead of demurely kicking them out at 12:02 A.M.? What happens to those women?

There are thousands, maybe tens of thousands of women like this in the city. We all know lots of them, and we all agree they’re great. They travel, they pay taxes, they’ll spend $400 on a pair of Manolo Blahnik strappy sandals.

“There is nothing wrong with these women,” said Jerry, 39, an entertainment lawyer who happened to marry one of these smart women, three years older than he is. “They’re not crazy or neurotic. They’re not Fatal Attraction.” Jerry paused. “Why do I know so many great women who aren’t married, and no great guys? Let’s face it, the unmarried guys in New York suck.”

Chemistry.com Members are the Rejects from Other Dating Sites

“Chemistry.com has been putting out...ads about their dating site which rely on the crux, of what would appear to be, the broad-spectrum rejection of certain members from other dating sites, more specifically eHarmony. Chemistry.com...[claims to offer] many if not all of the amenities as its competitors. The attitude of the ads, however are very much set apart from its rivals.” (Read full article.)

Chemistry.com’s ad campaign uses ‘rejected’ eHarmony clients with lines like ‘We don't know why eHarmony has rejected over a million people looking for love’. They also use a rubber stamp-like graphic featuring the words ‘Rejected by eHarmony’.

View an example of one of Chemisty.com’s recent ads on YouTube, ‘Nope, Still Gay’.

Who uses Chemisty.com?

Chemistry.com appeals to individuals who are less likely to want marriage. Online Personals Watch published an article from MY FOX (May 17) - Is marriage dead? The study was commissioned by Chemistry.com and conducted by Harris Interactive. According to the Chemistry.com survey,

- 50% of U.S. adults have a different opinion of marriage than their parents.
- 58% of U.S. adults think couples who live together in a committed relationship don't need to marry as long as they are happy.
- 78% of U.S. adults say the divorce rate in the U.S. is increasing because people get married for the wrong reasons.
- 76% of single adults disagree that marriage is a top priority for them right now.
- 66% of U.S. adults say a long-term, committed relationship is as important as marriage for a happy and fulfilling life.
- 85% agree that a person can be happy without getting married.

Chemistry.com’s ad campaign does not emphasize their 1) fundamentally different approach, 2) their patent-pending Chemistry Profile™, or their trademarked 1-2-3 Meet™. (Read more.) Instead, Chemistry.com is actively soliciting individuals with a past of non-compliance on other web sites and whose personal goals are not geared toward marriage and family.

If Chemistry.com is trying to appeal to eHarmony or other marriage oriented members, they have missed the mark. It seems that Chemistry.com is more likely to appeal to a clientele of casual daters.

Living Together Before Marriage

Statistics indicate that Living together before marriage has become increasingly popular. Only 40 years ago, this was not the case. According to the U.S. Census, less than 500,000 unmarried couples were "shacking up" in 1960. (In fact, it was actually illegal in many states at the time.) But by 2000, cohabitation had lost its outlaw status, and currently over nine times as many people are unmarried and living together.

Caltholic Update expresses three reasons why couples cohabit before marriage in the article Cohabitation Before Marriage (June 2003).

Cohabiting for convenience. With John working the day shift in a factory, Mary the 3:00-11:00 hours at a hospital, and their two family homesteads almost a half hour drive apart, this couple found making time to be together a difficult and frustrating task. Renting an apartment and moving in together resolved that challenge.

Cohabiting for economy. Ann and Bill rented separate apartments and hoped to begin marriage with a home of their own. By sharing one apartment, they used the saved rental money to purchase a house.

Cohabiting for discernment. Sam and Alice grew up in a split family, both of their parents having divorced when they were in elementary school. Each found that experience painful and devastating. They do not want their children to suffer the same trauma of divorce. This couple thought that living together before marriage would help them evaluate their own relationship and better prepare them for marital life.

Presumably, if a couple can get along living in the same apartment before marriage, they will be able to get along with each other after marriage. However, if marriage is the ultimate goal, cohabitation for discernment has not demonstrated success predicting compatibility.

Living together may prove compatibility for a moment in time, but it provides no evidence for happiness together over a lifetime. Cohabitation Facts indicate that the chances of a divorce after living together are huge, much higher than for couples who have not lived together prior to marriage. If living together were a test of marital compatibility, the statistics should show opposite results - couples living together should have stronger marriages. But they don't. They have weaker marriages.

iVillage reports three reasons why living together prior to marriage may be risky in the article 3 Warnings: Living Together Might Not Be Smart.

Higher Divorce Rate. Perhaps the most compelling and widespread argument against living together before marriage is that several researchers say it increases the risk of breaking up. Virtually all studies of this topic have shown that the chance of divorce is significantly greater for married couples who lived together first. And in 1992, the National Survey of Families and Households found that, in 3,300 families, married couples who had lived together first were judged to be 46 percent more likely to get divorced.

Lower Quality of Life. When it comes to living together, more research suggests that the quality of life for unmarried couples is far lower than for married couples. Researchers David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead say cohabiting couples report lower levels of happiness, lower levels of sexual exclusivity and sexual satisfaction, and poorer relationships with their parents. Annual rates of depression are more than three times higher. And, finally, cohabiting women are more likely than married women to suffer physical and sexual abuse.

Living Together Doesn't Necessarily Lead to Marriage. After five to seven years, 21 percent of most cohabitating couples are still doing just that - cohabitating, without getting married. In a new study by Popenoe and Whitehead, one of the top 10 reasons why men said that they are reluctant to get married at all is because they can simply live with a woman and enjoy the same benefits.

Marriage is an agreement to take care of each other for life, regardless of life's ups and downs. But the commitment of living together is not like that at all. It is simply a month-to-month rental agreement. As long as you behave yourself and keep me happy, I'll stick around.

Many couples with month-to-month rental agreement never choose to save up for the down payment to buy the “house”. Why should the couple get married if they have all the benefits of marriage without any of the commitment? The couple can enjoy the “house” without having to worry about maintenance. If a pipe leaks and floods the basement, they can just move out without having to figure out how to fix or pay for the problem.

Marriage may also have negative effects on those who have been in the habit of following the month-to-month agreement. If a couple who has lived together prior to marriage does decide to get married, they may feel that their own behavior has passed the test, and any further accommodation should be unnecessary. Thus, these couples never improve (i.e. add a new kitchen) the “house”.

Couples who have not lived together before marriage begin their relationship assuming that they are in this thing for life, and all their habits usually reflect that commitment. They realize that the only way to have happiness and compatibility is to agree to take each other's feelings into account every time they make a decision. They want to build compatibility, not test it.

Couples who have not cohabitated out of marriage bought their "house" together. They both take pride in their purchase and are willing to put forth the time and money for all necessary renovations and upkeep. After all, they plan on living there a long time.

One Third of Online Daters MARRIED

Who uses online dating sites? According to MSNBC, research shows that one third of people who use online dating services are married. “And it doesn’t help when some dating sites out there, like Udate, do not differentiate between divorced and separated, making it even more convenient for a man to lie about his marital status – Online Dating Magazine.”

South Coast Today’s article, “Husband claims he uses dating service just to find 'free porn' online” (April 23, 2007 6:00), discuss why married men are attracted to these online venues.

I discovered that last year, my husband created a free personal profile on an online dating site that is designed to meet women in our vicinity. Of course, I was crushed. Before I approached my husband, I checked our computer history to see what sites had been visited, what kind of e-mails he has been getting, and any other surprises. Fortunately, I found nothing except the fact that he did not answer any of the responses to his profile.

I told my husband how hurt and disappointed I am. He claims that because the dating sites are free (unlike the porn sites), it's a convenient way to receive online sexy pictures of women. So for him, it's just free porn. (Read full article.)

Online Dating Magazine’s article, “Online Dating: How to Stay Clear of Married Men”, provides 11 tips on how to spot a married man online.

Tip #1: He chooses not to post a picture of himself online, or he posts a picture that may be very dark and difficult to pick him out of a crowd.
Tip #2: He will likely be the one to initiate the first contact.
Tip #3: He may be very irregular or erratic about his responses back to you.
Tip #4: He requests your phone number, but will not give you his number.
Tip #5: His calls to you are very irregular, or are at set times.
Tip #6: He will only share his cell number with you.
Tip #7: You have his cellular number, but constantly are forced to leave a message.
Tip #8: He won’t share his last name with you.
Tip #9: He is very secretive about where he lives.
Tip #10: He does not divulge much info about himself or his family and upbringing.
Tip #11: You never get the chance to meet his friends or family.

Where the Singles Live

National Geographic has recently published a map showing where single people live in the United States. Each dot shows a concentration of single men and women living in a particular geographical region. Orange dots demonstrate a higher concentration of single women compared to men, and blue dots represent more single men living in the area. According to the map, the greatest concentrations of singles live in urban regions. Interestingly, higher concentrations of men live in the western US while women tend to prefer the east coast.



If it is true that unmarried men are clustered in western towns, are these men marriage material? National Geographic reports that most of these areas attract a large number of illegal aliens, namely agricultural workers. Another consideration is that many unmarried men may be elderly gents that have moved to warmer climate. You might also want to factor in gay males. San Francisco is known for its large gay population, so it could be that a large number of those single men might not be looking to marry.

Useful Statistics

If I were going to post “online dating statistics,” I would include useful information.

1) The most popular venue for a “first date” with someone you meet online.
2) How do you recognize the person when all you have is a picture which was probably taken on their best day, five years ago? Do you count on recognizing him, or do you get there early and let him find you?
3) What percentage of first dates that were at a cocktail lounge versus the local coffee shop lead to a second date? Does venue matter?

Are there statistics for this information? If not, there should be.

Internet Dating Statistics

As you can guess, millions of people worldwide use various online ‘love’ sites daily, so internet dating statistics should tell an interesting picture. Here’s a few for starters:

1) Up to 30% of American singles have used matchmaking sites.
2) Women, on average, receive over 5 emails daily.
3) Around 40% of men say they don’t feel confident meeting women the first time.
4) The overall cost of personal sites has dropped over the last 2 years.
5) On the first date, most women think men aren’t truthful.
6) Generally, guys prefer women younger than themselves.
7) Most people would prefer to be in a relationship than not.
8) Over a third of women don’t like guys being clingy.
9) Most girls say personality is much more important than looks.
10) Men, on average, receive only 1 or 2 emails daily.
11) 60% of women prefer men older than themselves.

These statistics are from the Internet Dating Guide.